by Annie
I am aware and I wanted you to be aware that men/women view things differently. For example, boys commonly take the penis as an embodiment of their “excellence”, while girls, who do not have the possibility of alienating themselves into one single part of their body, tend to turn their whole body into an object. This is where it all starts. Because we see ourselves as objects, we make it okay for guys to see us as objects, more commonly sexual objects.
When this type of “objectified relationship” is established it usually turns into one of the following: "lovers without commitment" or "friends with benefits." For me casual relationships are unrealistic. I believe strong emotions will inevitably come into play. Perhaps it is because I am a romantic; I guess it is my weakness. Anyway, relationships that start off as friends with benefits usually end because of a one-sided romantic attachment.
Like I said before I am a romantic. I still believe in the idea of growing old with someone and being faithful to that person. For me love can stand alone, it is a combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment.
Being someone’s "friend with benefits" is easy for a person who has been in a steady relationship followed by a recent "breakup". They may claim that this kind of “commitment” (if we can call it that) may lead to a strengthened bond or a more stable relationship if and when they are ready to commit fully, although it is more probable that the relationship will in fact be ruined, right?
Sometimes the cost of being in a relationship outweighs the rewards! Be careful!
I am aware and I wanted you to be aware that men/women view things differently. For example, boys commonly take the penis as an embodiment of their “excellence”, while girls, who do not have the possibility of alienating themselves into one single part of their body, tend to turn their whole body into an object. This is where it all starts. Because we see ourselves as objects, we make it okay for guys to see us as objects, more commonly sexual objects.
When this type of “objectified relationship” is established it usually turns into one of the following: "lovers without commitment" or "friends with benefits." For me casual relationships are unrealistic. I believe strong emotions will inevitably come into play. Perhaps it is because I am a romantic; I guess it is my weakness. Anyway, relationships that start off as friends with benefits usually end because of a one-sided romantic attachment.
Like I said before I am a romantic. I still believe in the idea of growing old with someone and being faithful to that person. For me love can stand alone, it is a combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment.
Being someone’s "friend with benefits" is easy for a person who has been in a steady relationship followed by a recent "breakup". They may claim that this kind of “commitment” (if we can call it that) may lead to a strengthened bond or a more stable relationship if and when they are ready to commit fully, although it is more probable that the relationship will in fact be ruined, right?
Sometimes the cost of being in a relationship outweighs the rewards! Be careful!
1 comment:
well i agree with the first paragraph... (second paragraph) i believe that the reason why many of us are afraid of commitment is because of rejection. perhaps they do believe in love but when we dont know wat we want we are afraid to give what we dont know about....it kind of a hard topic i have many thoughts about this they all lead to different points its not completely about making ourselves into objects there is also a point wen we loose respect trying to find where we belong and due to all the absence of bliss.... our mind travels fast without serenity and its hard to know wat we want.... that is why we relay on relationships without commitment cos wen the fear strikes back we can always run away
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